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Another evening at PDN

Saturday, November 2017.
It had been a while since our last visit to PDN.

We arrived in the early evening, after the fabulous feet & high heels afternoon.

It was so great to be there again. The owners greeted us with a big and happy smile. G & M are kind, great, and generous people.

Sid, The Stranger 2, was there too. I was glad to see him as I knew he had gone through some rough times. I listened while he told me about those difficult weeks.

Paul and Mary, a swingers couple connecting with BDSM, said hi and with them too we chitchatted.

We met new people from the foot lovers scene. Princess was very interested and wanted to know everything about it.

All I know is that I used to give a foot massage to Big A. and she loved it. Yeah I know, it is another setting entirely.

It made me think though, about including some foot loving stuff in our scenes.

Princess and I watched Marcus doing a beautiful bondage. We hadn’t seen him in ages and it is always interesting to see him work with rope.

It was cosy and fun and there were many people and they were playing or watching and enjoying themselves.

So did we, Princess and I.

I tied Princess to a bench and gave her a good and intense spanking. Used a cane mainly. And clothespins. And mind play.

We spend some more time enjoying being at PDN. We talked with Steven.
Frank and Nancy were there too. Princess talked quite a while with Nancy while Frank introduced me to Marcus.

It was that time of the month so we didn’t make it late. Princess felt tired and I knew she hadn’t slept well these past few days. She is also more emotional.

When we left I felt touched. People waved at us, yelling stuff like have a safe trip home and see ya soon and so on.

On our way home I told Princess, not for the first time, how I tought about PDN as my, well, our favourite place. I told her I felt at home there, safe and surrounded by kind and fantastic people.

“I feel the same way,” Princess smiled.
I grabbed her hand and for a while I steered with one hand.

Outside it was dark and there were stars but no moon.

At home we made love and then fell asleep.

Life is simple and beautiful with Princess.
With Princess I am complete and so very happy.

I have never loved so true and so deep and so much.
Princess redefined the word love for me.
It is truly an amazing experience.
Thank you, my Love.


Karada Workshop – August 19, 2017

We had a blast, Princess and I. For us it was one of those memorable afternoons/evenings that make this lifestyle shine as gold.

The workshop was organized at our favorite club PDN and given by Marc Van Vlaanderen. Marc has a huge experience in multiple domains of BDSM. He is accessible and one of his many gifts is the ability to pass a message, help people learn.

Princess and I arrived before 3 PM and were rewarded with a beer to take home. It is a Meestereske (Domina),  a 9,5% blonde triple. Thank you, Marc, for this much-appreciated attention.

So we learned the Karada. Not a simple Karada but one for all kinds of (floor)suspension. PDN’s dungeon hosted a huge frame, a small one-person frame hoisted so it could flip over and a huge wheel.

First I did a simple Karada floor suspension with Princess in a cage. I used a 12-meter rope that was made available. No natural fiber and a little elastic and it burned my fingers. I did swear quite a few times pulling through all that rope.

I did not like the result though, it wasn’t all that great and not beautiful either. But Princess and I had fun and learned a few things.

Karada floor suspension in a cage.

There was this huge wheel and I knew Princess was fascinated by it. So I asked Marc if he would help me suspend Princess in that construction. Sure enough he was more than willingly to help and soon his team-member were tying up Princess. I watched, did not feel secure enough to do this alone. So I stole with my eyes and learned.

Princess in a Karada based suspension.

Needless to say Princess enjoyed the experience.

Later that afternoon and evening even more people arrived. Princess and I enjoyed watching what was going on. We talked with friends too, yes, it was really a memorable evening.

Sid was there too. We connected even more. He is a great guy and I was happy he found a rope bunny for that workshop.

Later, later, I tied Princess to a wooden pole and gave her a harsh spanking. She almost came while I almost drowned in my sweat. It was way to warm there for me albeit most of the time Princess felt cold.

We watched people play. It was fun. It made me so very happy to see how some of them were able to enjoy being (almost) naked in spite of being very far from the what the fuck ideal body.
We are all human beings and the diversity on so many levels makes us so rich. Here, at least at PDN, we could all be just that. Human beings without being judged for whatever some think others need to be judged for.

It was past midnight before we came home.
Princess and I went to bed. Exhausted but we made love nevertheless.

We got up early this morning as Princess had to be home early to take care of Little Star.

Mostly she stays till noon. Not this morning though.

Later this afternoon I phoned Sid.
We’ll be seeing him this week.
It will be sizzling hot.

Meeting Sid

Past Saturday we went to our favorite club. It had been a while since our last visit. The club feels like a second home. We talked with friends. In the dungeon I tied Princess to bondage horse for some harsh impact play. It gave her an intense orgasm and shot her deep into subspace.

It was also a very exciting evening because we were going to meet a candidate.

When I placed the ad a few weeks ago my idea was to meet and look for a mutual connection. Princess was not concerned because she would wear a blindfold when we would play with. It would increase Princesses’ sensation of being used. Besides, finding a connection between two is difficult already let alone with three.

Sid was one of the men who reacted to the add. His reply was respectful and his profile interesting. He is a newcomer to our lifestyle. Sid had also put the results from on his profile. Albeit I take such results with a grain of salt it is useful. Sid scored pretty high on the non-submissive stuff indicating he is a Dominant.

Being a regular visitor of PDN he asked if we could meet there, have a few drinks, see if there was a vibe and take it from there.

This meant Princess was going to meet him too. We talked about it and she liked the idea. Being presented like that, checked out visually felt also very much as being used she told me.

So we met Sid.
I liked taking with him. It felt like we knew each other already. I told him what his role would be. He told me his expectations. He is respectful and that I like. Princess felt okay too.
Then Sid asked Princess if she liked sucking cock, being eaten, fucked hard and long. She smiled and say as much as possible on everything.
Hell that was hot. This man asking Princess how she wanted to be fucked by him.

She smiled. He smiled.
Then, with some hesitation, he asked Princess if she liked anal. She smiled again and assured Sid she loved being fucked that way.

Oh god, I had the impression my cock was going to burst out of my pants.

A handful of kinksters had taken seats around us and it was clear they were enjoying what Princess described as an interview. It pushed all her buttons and I am pretty sure she felt very slutty.

On our way home Princess and I talked about Sid and she was okay with the idea of him having sex with her. I had still some reservations though. His Dominant side but mostly because he smokes.

In bed we talked about it some more and it made me mad with desire and I fucked Princess hard.
We slept well and the next morning I mounted her while she was still half asleep.

The sex was great and Princess came and orgasmed and squirted over and over. We ended up with soaked bed linen.

Somewhere between two fucks Princess told me she fantasized about being gangbanged. Sucking off a bunch of men was another of her fantasies. Just fantasies mind you. Well, for the time being anyway.

Then Princess mounted me. Rode me while she licked my nipples. In my mind’s eye I saw her being used by 4, 5 men and the idea drove me mad with desire for Princess.

I screamed when I shot my seed deep in Princess.
It was a very intense orgasm.

This morning I messaged Sid and proposed a few evenings next week. I told him I have a very hot BDSM-scene in mind.

Saturday – June 24, 2017

“Human life is but a series of footnotes to a vast obscure unfinished masterpiece”
Vladimir Nabokov, Lolita

Saturday, for the third time in a row, we went to our favorite club PDN.

After a few drinks and some chit-chatting I led Princess to the Dungeon. A low cage and small cage in the corner attracted her attention.

I checked the cage for possible dangers like sharp edges and then opened it.

“Get in,” I said.
Princess got on all fours and crawled in the cage.
“On your back,” I told her.

Her legs stick through the bar. I grab two short pieces of rope and tie column ties around her calves and the top bars to keep her legs inside the cage. In this position Princesses’ legs are also spread open wide.

I pull the gusset of her sexy red body sideways, revealing her pussy. Then I sat down on the couch. While I used my cane to tease Princesses’ pussy I watched a couple play.

After a while I grabbed a vibrator, switched it on and held it against the cane. It did not take long before Princess started moaning.

“Please can I come?” she sighed.
“Not yet.”

I pushed the tip of the cane inside her. While moving it in and out, ever so slow, I switched the vibrator to its highest.

Princess could not hold it longer.
“Honor me. Come now. Come for me. NOW,” I growled.

Princess let go, sighed with relief falling on her back, a big smile across her face. For a while I let her lying there. Then started again, pushing Princess to another and even more intense orgasm.

Princess stayed in the cage for quite some time. It was the first time we did something like this. We both liked it and I’m sure we’ll explore this further. There are so many possibilities with this toy. Putting Princess on display for example. Offering the fuck-stick to anyone who’s interested in making Princess cum.

Later on we did some impact play and rope and then finished our evening at the bar.
I love being there. I love the folks we meet at PDN. It is a great place to be, to play and to meet interesting people.

Back home we made love and slept well despite the heath. We could not open our bedroom window. It was the annual fair weekend in the main shopping street.

Sunday morning we made love and fucked and made love. At noon I dropped Princess at her place.

In the late afternoon she phoned me. I picked her up, fetched Stella and Little Star and drove to Princesses’ parents. It was fun.

We took Stella and Little Star to a hamburger restaurant and after that I said goodbye to Princess. Went home. Slept.

Woke-up at 05:50 on Monday morning.
It meant back to work.
I was happy I could.


Thoughts – June 19, 2017 and about C.

We are experiencing a heat wave. Temperatures around 90° F are rather seldom over here. Farmers have problems already due to the drought. People are forbidden to wash their cars or hose their lawns.
My apartment is scorching hot. It is windless so opening the windows bring no comfort. From noon till sunset the sun burns on my terrace, heating up the living room. When I come home from work it feels like I am entering a sauna.
Past Saturday we went back to PDN, our favorite BDSM club. Partly because we wanted to. Partly because the heat in our place did not encourage playing.
It was not very crowded. For a while we sat at the bar. Talking and drinking cold non-alcoholic beverages. After all chilled water is quite exquisite when it is very hot and one is thirsty.
Then we played, the two of us.  I did not hold back. We were back to normal.
First I tied Princess to a leather-covered bench, securing her with leather straps. I made Princess whimper and groan and squeal with my floggers. Yet it was the old-fashioned and unforgiving hard spanking that pushed her over the edge. Her orgasm was very wet and intense. When I covered her trembling body with a soft fleece Princess was already in deep subspace.
After Princess recovered we did some rope play. I used the coconut rope for an elaborate breast bondage. The harsh rope pricked and scratched her nipples and Princess loved every bit of it.
I ended our play evening with a harsh spanking. It skyrocketed Princess once again into subspace. She got another squirting and overwhelming orgasm as a bonus.
We watched others play. PDN is like a second home to us.
I cannot end this post without writing something about C.
Princess and I did not know C. that well. I had a few occasional chats with her. I liked her very much. Sitting at the bar. A permanent wave, very feminine. Wearing a housemaid’s robe right out of the fifties. A cigarette. Always a cigarette.
And a drink.
I saw her play once, touched by an Angel. An Angel that touched many kinksters that evening. Even Princess.
I wrote about that evening, and about C.
There is C. She sits at the bar wearing a 19th century pinafore above her clothes.
Once she told me she goes to the hairdresser before coming to the club. That’s why she always looks so well-groomed.
Rarely I see her in the Dungeon. I like C., we have talked already and when we are at PDN I always say hi and kiss her on the cheek.
We saw C. in the Dungeon and she was playing with Angel. Angel had sensed what made C. tick. It was lovely to watch. It was about punishment and she had C. kneeled on small, low wooden prayer stool.
Before we left I told C. I liked what I had witnessed. She smiled, her eyes still shining. It was something she had been waiting for so long. It had pleasured her so much to be able to play even it was a short scene. In fact, she talks with everybody but I don’t think her needs are met. Now she had something to take home with her.
I said bye, gave her 3 kisses.
Recently I found out C. was so happy with her new identity card. She was finally and officially a woman. She never got all the operations though. There were some health issues.
Past Friday at noon, during my lunch break I checked Fetlife and the PDN profile. There was this short message. For a moment time stood still and I felt tears burning behind my eyes.
C. had passed away somewhere Thursday night.
She was in her late fifties.
The big C. got her.
Yes, I cried.
We missed her past Saturday. But when I closed my eyes I could see her sitting there. I could feel her warmth and her love and kindness.
When we arrive at a certain age more and more people we know stop living. Some we say, hell, what a shame, he/she will be missed.

I know C. will be forever in my mind. No, I did not know her very well. But she made an unforgettable impression. She will always be a part of my memories.

I close my eyes and see C. sitting at the bar of PDN.
I will find C. in my mind’s eye.
C. touched me like she touched so many others. I cannot pinpoint why or how.

But she did.

Dear C., it was an honor and a pleasure to have known you.
We  will all miss you.

Back to PDN – June 10, 2017

Past Saturday evening Princess and I went to PDN again. Many moons had passed since our last visit.
We were nervous and excited.

Princess was so very sexy and a happy smile made her shine with incredible beauty. I felt proud being at her side as her man and her Dom.

It was great to reconnect with those we see and talk with when we are the club. Some of them we even like to think of as friends.

Finally, for the first time in over 4 or 5 months, we played too, Princess and I.

I did not overdo it. Coconut rope mixed with clothes pins and pussy spanking and mind play. No spanking or flogging or whipping.
Not yet.

Nancy and Frank where there too. They live in a nearby town. We hadn’t seen them in months.
We watched them play.
Frank likes to go hard.

Princess shivered when Frank took out his huge hunting knife. He caressed Nancy’s back with its tip.

Then Frank did some interesting stuff with barbwire. He finished by blowing flames towards Nancy with a spray can filled with rubbing alcohol.

While Nancy was packing the toys we talked with Frank. He showed us how he used the self-made barbwire “whip” on my Princess. He and I carved a few lines in Princess’s back with the hunting knife. It is true, the bigger the more intimidating. Holding this knife is a whole different experience. I cannot compare it with my small but razor-sharp Puma Tec. David and Goliath spring to mind.

Then Frank said something to Princess, I couldn’t understand what. To my surprise I saw her drop her knickers in a swift move. Then standing naked in front of him

Holy cow I thought with a smile, I must keep a close eye on Princess.

Soon Frank was playing with a flaming torch. Its tip covered with Kevlar and moistened with rubbing alcohol.

Princess was having a ball. I tend to forget she finds fire play fascinating. Made a note on my mental to-do list.

Then we left. Princess felt weary. In the car she told me she would not mind playing with Frank and Nancy. She also fantasized about Nancy dominating her. Frank is Nancy’s Dom but they told us Nancy likes to play with women.

I liked the idea yet I have second thoughts about playing with a couple. Not exactly the playing part but what might follow. I don’t have a problem with Princess having sex with a man or a woman but I’m not so keen on having sex with another woman. I’m not interested. I have everything with Princess already.

During our many visits at PDN we have seen male Doms with one or two subs. We enjoyed watching a male D/s couple playing. There is this Domme that does some visual appealing stuff with her hubby. Her play is very hot and their interaction intense.

I told Princess I would love to play with her and a male slave at PDN at least once. Stay overnight. Have sex. Whatever.

I wish I could to this with The Stranger. It would be a hell of an evening, night even. Memorable I’m sure.
Sadly it won’t work.
The Stranger is shy. We tried this before. I do not think this will change any soon. I respect how he feels and if I can help him overcome his issues I’ll be happy to. I don’t know how though.

It is also possible The Stranger finds his rare gem, his Domme. Our adventures would, no doubt there, also be over.

I’m guessing I should search for a second The Stranger. To go out with, the three of us. Play in the club.
Who knows, play at home, Princess, two The Strangers and I.

Princess, the light of my life and fire of my loins. Princess, my sin, my soul, my everything.
What adventures lay in front of us, I’m curious to know.

I’ll answer that one when looking at the future makes no sense anymore.
When the past is the only thing that’s left.
I intend to make our life, Princesses’ and mine as deep and as rich as possible.

Being together, walking, hand in hand, over the remaining road of our life is such a huge gift.
Thank you, whomever you might be.

We slept well, Princess and I.
Sunday morning we made love.
It was that time of the month so we made a bloody mess of the sheets.
I loved every bit of it.

Princess and I, Book II

Our first eBook, Princess and I, The First Years,  has been downloaded 40+ times.

Today I have published Princess and I, Book II.
It covers the last few months of 2013, when I moved our blog to a self-hosted site.

Henceforth the next volumes will cover a full year.

You can download our book, Princess and I, Book II, absolutely free and it is available in PDF, epub and Kindle.

I’m sure there are still a few writing errors in this book and I hope everything is well formatted. I checked the links to YouTube and other blogs and updated or removed them when the content was no longer available.

Your feedback is greatly appreciated.

You can download the book HERE

Front page for our 2nd eBook

Past Weekend

The Stranger called off our date for Saturday due to a cold. Sad because Princess and I were looking forward to a pleasurable play scene and a hot threesome.

So instead Princess and I went to PDN, our favorite club.

We enjoyed a fantastic evening talking with friends, having a drink and playing. I gave Princess two very intense spanking sessions.-

Both session brought the love of my life into deep sub-space.

I had also an interesting conversation with the owner. In fact he and his wife have no real connection with BDSM specifically but they have a lot of  experience with the nightlife.

In fact they host PDN just for their pleasure and as long as they turn brake-even they are happy. I did not have the opportunity to ask why they invest in BDSM as it became busier at the bar.

Nevertheless I told the owner something he had to think about for a few seconds.

“So you are in fact some kind of a Maecenas,” I said.
“I never looked at it that way,” he answered after a short hesitation, “but I guess you have a point.”

I love PDN. It is one of my favourite places to spend time and it is a place where Princess and I feel at home, safe and cozy. The owners are very generous and the people we meet are friendly, sociable and respectful.

Back home we slept well albeit it was a very short night as we changed from winter to summer time thus losing one hour.

Sunday morning we made love. It was delicious, intense and rough and at noon I dropped Princess off at her place.

A few hours later I picked her up again and then Stella who lives nearby. About 45 minutes later we arrived at Princesses’ parents home to celebrate her mother’s anniversary.

Immediately upon our arrival Princesses daughters Kay and Ar left without setting eyes on me but Bo gave me a warm-hearted hug. That felt good.
She showed us a picture she had made of her grandparents with her Fuji Instax and it was an amazing photograph.

We sat in the garden, ate cake and had a good time. Then it became chilly and we went inside. It was fun and warm and cozy. I really do love Princesses’ parents and her siblings.

Then we left, Princess, Stella, Little Star and I.
Dropped them off at their places.
Said goodbye.

An hour later I was home.
And alone.
The bed was empty and I missed my Princess.
This is my life.
This is as good as it will get.

Antwerp Central Railwaystation
Olympus OM-D M10 with a 45-150mm lens.

Sex, rope, pain, sex, sleep…

Saturday, March 18.

Around 19:00 Princess arrived at my place.
I said hi and led her to the bedroom.
Soon we were making love.
It was fantastic. It was incredible, really it was.
I gave Princess a few orgasms not only because that’s what I love to do. I also wanted her in the right mood.

Waiting for Princess

After the sex we went to the living room for rope bondage and photography.

I had some ideas of what I wanted to create. Finally I did not get what I wanted, or what I had imagined, but the shots that worked were those I made after tying with my heart.

Next time I’m just going to tie following a basic plan, without taking in account the images I want to create.
I know images will present themselves when there is interaction/reaction between Princess, me and the rope.


We took a short break, had some gin & tonic and then I tied a chest harness using the coconut rope. Princess love the rough feel of this rope.

I forced Princess in a bending position over the back of the couch and gradually increased the speed and intensity of the flogging till Princesses’ ass was hot and deep red.

I pushed Princess down on her side, blindfolded her and tied her ankles together. Then I tied a rope around her waist leading it over her backside to the front where I tied a knot near her clit. The end of the rope I gave to Princess. Pulling it would rub the knot over her clit in quite a satisfying way.

“Pleasure yourself whenever you are in need,” I hissed.

I started dripping hot wax on her deep red butt. Princess screamed and moaned every time a few drops of hot wax touched her already sensitive skin. Soon she was pulling the rope end I had given her, pleasuring herself to compensate the pain I was giving.

Later on I cleaned Princess up. Using my razor-sharp knife I carefully lifted the wax off her skin.

Shortly after, we were in bed again and made love like a zillion times.
Needless to say we did sleep very well.


Princess and I, The First Years

“I wish I had our blog in print,” Princess whispered, “so I can hold our story, read in it whenever I want.”

“Sounds like a good idea to me, “ I told the love of my life.
“Isn’t it?”

“I’ll make it happen,” I promised, not sure how I would be able to get the whole blog in an editable document like Word or so.

Getting it into a Word document was very easy. Editing was the most time-consuming part.

So today I’m putting up a link to my account on Smashwords. You’ll be able to download “Princess and I, The First Years”.

It’s free and available in PDF, Epub and Mobi.

There is our story, right on you reading device. You’ll find Princesses’ beautifully written poetry and a few articles about my photography.

I’m sure there are still writing errors in this book and I hope everything is well formatted.

This book covers the posts I made from 2012 till 2013 when I moved to a self-hosted site.

It was fun browsing through the articles. I was astonished I had written so much in little over a year. Little over 63,800 words.

In a near future I’ll be putting a next Princess and I online. I have the document covering the articles on till December 31, 2016 already. I think I’ll do a 2013-2014 first and from then one per year.

You can find the book HERE

I would greatly appreciate your feedback.