Category Archives: Rope Play

Under this category I will place post about our experiences with Rope Play.

Thoughts – November 23, 2017

 Past Monday they replaced the boiler in my apartment. The constant chilliness, candles, a small heater, and hardly any warm water were over.
Tuesday we played, Princess and I.
The room was warm and cozy.
A few candles lit.
Rope, pain, hot candle wax and pleasure.
Princess had a ball.
So did I.
We did not make love that night. Instead I held Princess in my arms while we waited in the darkness for sleep to creep in.
The next morning we made love. Showered with hot water. We drank coffee and went to the woods for a walk.
Way to soon it was late and almost noon.
We kissed and then Princess stepped into her other life.


The Stranger 2 – Sid – Part 1

Tuesday, August 29.
The day has been hot. Up to 92° F.

I feel tired. Went mountain biking this morning. Started doing this just a few days ago. Still have to build up my condition.

It is hot in the apartment too. I’m sweating like a mule. I don’t feel 100% okay but I guess it is the warmth, the thick, moist, and sticky air, the long ride this morning.

Princess is ready and waiting in the bedroom. She is wearing a white shirt, no bra. The black skirt ends above her knees. Under it a white lace panty, lace stockings and a garter belt.
Hair in a high ponytail. Blindfold. Black pumps ready.
She is sitting on the bed and feeling quite exited.

I told her that after the play scene I would ask her if she was still hot and eager. If so I would ask what she would like next. The answer would be something like getting fucked. If she’d say she had enough it would end there.

It would give Princess the opportunity to end or continue the evening in a gentle way towards our visitor.

Sid is right on time. I like that.
I lead him into the living room. I offer him a drink. We talk for a while. All the doors are open so Princess can hear us.

“I’ll go and fetch her,” I tell Sid.
In the bedroom I help Princess in her pumps and lead her to the living room.

I help her in a kneeling position next to me and offer her a glass of wine.

Then I sit down next to Sid again.

I tell Sid Princesses’ safe word is red. Also I remind Princess that she is not allowed to orgasm and not to speak unless for direct question. Also I make it clear to Princess that her only task this evening is to give us a great time, to serve us in every way we wish.

I love watching her, kneeling at my side in such a beautiful submissive position. Princess is just perfect.

“Isn’t she a beauty?” I ask Sid.
“Indeed,” he sighs.
“She has a gorgeous body as you soon will discover.”
The bulge in his pants an unspoken answer.
“She is also an avid little cocksucker and a great fuck,” I tell him.
“I’m pretty sure she is.”
“And you know what is even better than a beautiful woman?”
He looks at me with a questioning look.
“Hell Sid, a naked beautiful woman.”

We both laugh. Princess remains still, does not move.

I get up.
“Come,” I tell Princess and help her stand up.
I lead her to a standing position, a few feet from Sid who’s still sitting on the couch.
Princess is facing him but she can’t see him because of her blindfold.

Sid’s breathing is deeper now, his eyes all over Princess. I can almost feel his lust, his carnal hunger for her body. I’m sure he can’t wait to fuck her. But he’ll has to be patient. First we play.

“Spread your legs, slut,” I tell Princess and crouch down behind her. I slide my hands under her skirt and gently pull down her panty to her knees.

Once again I sit down next to Sid. We enjoy our glass of wine.
“Grab the bottom of you skirt and pull the front up. I want you to show your pussy to Sid. But do it slow. We want to enjoy it.”
“Yes Milord.”

Princess moves her hips, moves her hands, and plays with the skirt. She pulls it up, higher and higher. I am mesmerized by Princesses’ movements. I know she picked up some teasing moves from a burlesque workshop her daughters attended.

When the skirt is up high enough to show her pussy she stops moving.
Stand still.

“And?” I ask Sid.
“Wow,” he replies.
“Lovely pussy, not?”
“Oh yes,” he sighs.
We get up and he moves towards Princess.

“Why don’t you explore her slit with your finger?” I say and grab Princess firmly by her ponytail.
Sid pushes his index finger in her mouth and then starts exploring Princesses’ pussy.
He is good at it.
Soon Princess is moaning.
I look at Sid. He smiles. Winks.
Moves a little more with his hand.
Princess moans even more now.
I tug at her ponytail. “Don’t you dare to cum.”
“No Milord,” she whispers.
“And?” I ask Sid.
“She’s wet already,” he replies.
I smile. Princess had become a hot little slut and I am so very proud of her.

After a while I grab her ponytail. Push her forward so she is bending forward.

“Check out her backside,” I invite Sid, pulling up her skirt so he has a full sight on her delicious ass.

I let him caress her buttocks. Then I pull her cheeks open.
“Her ass is a very tight fuck,” I tell Sid.
I grab a butt plug and a flask of lube and hand it over to him.

While I grab her ass cheeks again, pulling them open, I watch Sid pushing it in Princesses’ behind.

“Makes it a little easier to fuck her there later on,” I tell Sid.
I make Princess stand up again.
Then pull down her panties and skirt.

“Want to see the rest of her, Sid?”
“I would be delighted.”
“So unbutton her shirt then. Don’t over haste. Enjoy the unpacking.”
I move behind Princess and hold her arms behind her back in a tight grip. My other arm around her throat, holding her head slightly back.

I watch Sid unbutton her shirt. He takes his time. Touches her breasts, play with her nipples, caress her skin.
Princess is making all the right noises.
Finally he pulls the shirt over her arms.
We sit down on the coach again. Sip from our wine.
Princess is standing motionless in front of us.
Legs spread. Naked.

It is a glorious sight and Sid and I spend some time discussing the beauty and hotness of Princesses’ body.
Once again I stress how good a little slutty cocksucker she is.

To be continued…







Karada Workshop – August 19, 2017

We had a blast, Princess and I. For us it was one of those memorable afternoons/evenings that make this lifestyle shine as gold.

The workshop was organized at our favorite club PDN and given by Marc Van Vlaanderen. Marc has a huge experience in multiple domains of BDSM. He is accessible and one of his many gifts is the ability to pass a message, help people learn.

Princess and I arrived before 3 PM and were rewarded with a beer to take home. It is a Meestereske (Domina),  a 9,5% blonde triple. Thank you, Marc, for this much-appreciated attention.

So we learned the Karada. Not a simple Karada but one for all kinds of (floor)suspension. PDN’s dungeon hosted a huge frame, a small one-person frame hoisted so it could flip over and a huge wheel.

First I did a simple Karada floor suspension with Princess in a cage. I used a 12-meter rope that was made available. No natural fiber and a little elastic and it burned my fingers. I did swear quite a few times pulling through all that rope.

I did not like the result though, it wasn’t all that great and not beautiful either. But Princess and I had fun and learned a few things.

Karada floor suspension in a cage.

There was this huge wheel and I knew Princess was fascinated by it. So I asked Marc if he would help me suspend Princess in that construction. Sure enough he was more than willingly to help and soon his team-member were tying up Princess. I watched, did not feel secure enough to do this alone. So I stole with my eyes and learned.

Princess in a Karada based suspension.

Needless to say Princess enjoyed the experience.

Later that afternoon and evening even more people arrived. Princess and I enjoyed watching what was going on. We talked with friends too, yes, it was really a memorable evening.

Sid was there too. We connected even more. He is a great guy and I was happy he found a rope bunny for that workshop.

Later, later, I tied Princess to a wooden pole and gave her a harsh spanking. She almost came while I almost drowned in my sweat. It was way to warm there for me albeit most of the time Princess felt cold.

We watched people play. It was fun. It made me so very happy to see how some of them were able to enjoy being (almost) naked in spite of being very far from the what the fuck ideal body.
We are all human beings and the diversity on so many levels makes us so rich. Here, at least at PDN, we could all be just that. Human beings without being judged for whatever some think others need to be judged for.

It was past midnight before we came home.
Princess and I went to bed. Exhausted but we made love nevertheless.

We got up early this morning as Princess had to be home early to take care of Little Star.

Mostly she stays till noon. Not this morning though.

Later this afternoon I phoned Sid.
We’ll be seeing him this week.
It will be sizzling hot.

Thoughts – August 18, 2017

The first week of my two-week holiday is almost over. It has been raining abundantly every single day.

So I spend most of my time watching a few YouTube channels on video and film making. Watched a bunch of movies too.
I took Princess and Little A. to the movies. Annabelle: Creation was very good. I liked it.

Not as scary as The Conjuring or Insidious though. The atmosphere and the narrative slowness made up for it. Add to that the photography and great camerawork and you have a good movie.

Past Monday Little A. came back home after a 10-day summer camp in Croatia. She asked for some food, took a shower and washed her hair.

After that my youngest daughter asked if she could use my iMac.For over 4 hours she edited using iMovie.
Then Little A. was ready to show me the first results.
What I saw blew me away.
The movie was short, quick and had an incredible vibe to it. And a very good rhythm. Think Casey Neistat style of shooting but revved up.
No cheap effects or loud titles. The changing of speed during a scene are subtle.
Also, the Denver ACT-8030W action cam I gave her performs very well. Sharp and good color rendition.

Yesterday Little A. got some more footage and asked if she could use my iMac again.

So Princess and I moved to the bedroom where we watched The Godfather Part 2. What a movie, what a visual and storytelling experience.

After that we made love, Princess and I.
Then we fell asleep. Exhausted, happy and so in love.

When I woke up this morning she was dozing. I took her though.
It was good. She orgasmed pretty quick. And then again.
Slapped her in the face, pulled her hair. Felt her squirting.

Then it was time for Princess to leave.

I did not do much today. It rained you see. Like as in the whole day.
It is 20:45 over here. The late sun is shining and it is great outside.
I’m pretty sure it will be raining tomorrow as well though.

Tomorrow I’ll be picking up Princess at 2 and we’ll arrive at 3 PM at our club.

We are attending a rope workshop and Princess and I are so looking forward to it.

The main theme is the rope dress or Karada. Like this simple one for example.

The workshop ends at 7 PM or so. We are staying for the evening as well. After 8 it is your regular Saturday evening BDSM play party at the club.

I’m sure Princess and I will have a lot of fun. I am convinced we’ll learn new stuff too.

Three is so much fun

A few weeks ago Princess and I enjoyed another hot evening with The Stranger. I am not going to bore you with the details.

Princess was dressed in a sexy black dress. Under it fine black underwear and a garter belt.

Shortly after his arrival I made The Stranger stand up in front of us and undress. All except for his shorts.

I told Princess to get up and tease him. I enjoyed watching Princess caress his muscled torso and licked his nipples.

I could tell by looking at his face the guy was having a hard time. And slightly painful I might add. The Stranger was wearing a cock cage.

I told Princess to sit in my leather office chair, spread her legs and watch The Stranger and I.
Then I forced the naked Stranger on his knees. Then I told Princess to push her panty aside and play with herself. While I tied The Stranger’s hands behind his back he could watch her. I tied a chest harness and made sure it was pretty snug.

Then I pushed against the back of his head, forcing him between Princesses’ legs and made he lick her. It was as close as I could bring The Stranger to a Domme/slave situation. Afterwards he told me he had liked it very much.

I looked at Princess, kissing her while she moaned and arched her back. She pushed her pussy even closer to his mouth.

Princess was close and I told her to fight it. Soon she was begging me for release. I waited a little longer, then slapped her in the face. “Come for me, you dirty slut,” I hissed.

Princess screamed and came and it was a good one.
“Back off,  slave,” I told The Stranger, pulling him back.

He smiled, his mouth glistening with Princesses’ wetness. I grabbed some Kleenex and cleaned him up.

“On your back, slave”, I growled. He had a hard time doing so, tied up with a chest harness.

I tied a Futomomo, binding the calf of a leg to the thigh. I then grabbed his knees and pushed them apart.
“Come here,” I told Princess, “and liberate his cock.”
Princess did just that by gently sliding the transparent cock cage of his penis. Once freed, his cock hardened immediately.

Princess was hot, Princess was eager and before I could grab a rubber she was already sucking him. For a few seconds I looked at the scene, flabbergasted. Then I started enjoying it, watching her. She pleasured The Stranger’s rock-hard cock with her tongue, her mouth.

After a while I pulled her away. Princess looked at me, her eyes shining from the hots raging in her mind and body.

“Sit,” I told her, “and don’t move.” I untied The Stranger and through the rope in a bag. I’ll wash them later.

I tied Princess with a chest harness and a Futomomo on each leg.
“I’m going to play with Princess,” I told The Stranger.
I pointed at the fuck stick and our new 13,500 RPM Fairy Exceed Massage Wand.
“You pleasure her on my lead.”

I covered Princesses’ belly and sides with clothes pins.

The Stranger used the fuck stick, pushing Princess to an orgasm. When she almost there I made him stop and gave the love of my life even more pain.

I then lit a few candles and started dripping hot wax over Princesses’ body.

My slave used the Fairy Massage Wand on Princesses’ pussy. Even with half the power of the wand Princess orgasmed intense and powerful already.

After cutting away the wax with a sharp knife we took 5 and drank some wine.
The Stranger was curious about hot wax and I dripped some on his foot. I am not sure he liked it very much. He is not into pain. I tried a flogger once and that wasn’t a success either.

I lead Princess and The Stranger to the bedroom. While Princess undressed I watched The Stranger pull on a rubber.

Princess was lying on the bed and I positioned myself next to her. Slid my hand between her legs. She was wet and longing already.

“She’s ready,” I told The Stranger. “Fuck her.”

I watched him mount the love of my life. When his cock slid in Princess I almost came myself. While The Stranger fucked her, I kissed Princess and held her in my arms. After a few minutes I told The Stranger to make room for me. Princess was so very wet when I slid in. I fucked her, then The Stranger and I changed places and again and again till Princess came with a loud scream.

The Stranger and I kept fucking Princess while she sucked whatever dick available.

Then I rolled on my back, pulled her on top of me, slid in her pussy. The Stranger used some lube and tried to penetrate her too.

Princess loves anal but for some reason we could not double penetrate her. When he pushed in I slid out. It was kind of funny and soon we were laughing and having fun. We tried with The Stranger on his back, Princess sitting on him and I trying to get in her pussy. That did not work either.

I had watched some porn flicks and it looked so easy.

Finally we gave up.

I told The Stranger he could come, asking him how he wished to unload. “In her ass,” he said. “Be my guest,” I answered and told Princess to get on all fours and stick her ass up.

He pulled on a new rubber and ass fucked my wife as if his life depended on it.

Princess moaned and yelped, torn between lust and pain as she explained me later on.

She looked in my eyes with deep, unbreakable, and eternal love. We kissed and I held her.

Then he screamed he was on the brink of coming. His body jerked and he threw his head backwards while he ejaculated in Princess.

Princess came too, she shivered and sighed and thanked me and we kissed again. I watched how The Stranger pulled his softening cock back, the tip of the rubber loaded with his jizz.

We had an awesome evening and after The Stranger left I made Princess mine again.

I know it might sound weird but I love watching Princess being fucked. We stay close and connected, that is something she insists on. Having her suck and fuck is even hotter.

We slept well that night, Princess and I. The next morning we made love. Then we fucked and after that we made love again, soaking the bed linen with our love and lust.

Thoughts – June 19, 2017 and about C.

We are experiencing a heat wave. Temperatures around 90° F are rather seldom over here. Farmers have problems already due to the drought. People are forbidden to wash their cars or hose their lawns.
My apartment is scorching hot. It is windless so opening the windows bring no comfort. From noon till sunset the sun burns on my terrace, heating up the living room. When I come home from work it feels like I am entering a sauna.
Past Saturday we went back to PDN, our favorite BDSM club. Partly because we wanted to. Partly because the heat in our place did not encourage playing.
It was not very crowded. For a while we sat at the bar. Talking and drinking cold non-alcoholic beverages. After all chilled water is quite exquisite when it is very hot and one is thirsty.
Then we played, the two of us.  I did not hold back. We were back to normal.
First I tied Princess to a leather-covered bench, securing her with leather straps. I made Princess whimper and groan and squeal with my floggers. Yet it was the old-fashioned and unforgiving hard spanking that pushed her over the edge. Her orgasm was very wet and intense. When I covered her trembling body with a soft fleece Princess was already in deep subspace.
After Princess recovered we did some rope play. I used the coconut rope for an elaborate breast bondage. The harsh rope pricked and scratched her nipples and Princess loved every bit of it.
I ended our play evening with a harsh spanking. It skyrocketed Princess once again into subspace. She got another squirting and overwhelming orgasm as a bonus.
We watched others play. PDN is like a second home to us.
I cannot end this post without writing something about C.
Princess and I did not know C. that well. I had a few occasional chats with her. I liked her very much. Sitting at the bar. A permanent wave, very feminine. Wearing a housemaid’s robe right out of the fifties. A cigarette. Always a cigarette.
And a drink.
I saw her play once, touched by an Angel. An Angel that touched many kinksters that evening. Even Princess.
I wrote about that evening, and about C.
There is C. She sits at the bar wearing a 19th century pinafore above her clothes.
Once she told me she goes to the hairdresser before coming to the club. That’s why she always looks so well-groomed.
Rarely I see her in the Dungeon. I like C., we have talked already and when we are at PDN I always say hi and kiss her on the cheek.
We saw C. in the Dungeon and she was playing with Angel. Angel had sensed what made C. tick. It was lovely to watch. It was about punishment and she had C. kneeled on small, low wooden prayer stool.
Before we left I told C. I liked what I had witnessed. She smiled, her eyes still shining. It was something she had been waiting for so long. It had pleasured her so much to be able to play even it was a short scene. In fact, she talks with everybody but I don’t think her needs are met. Now she had something to take home with her.
I said bye, gave her 3 kisses.
Recently I found out C. was so happy with her new identity card. She was finally and officially a woman. She never got all the operations though. There were some health issues.
Past Friday at noon, during my lunch break I checked Fetlife and the PDN profile. There was this short message. For a moment time stood still and I felt tears burning behind my eyes.
C. had passed away somewhere Thursday night.
She was in her late fifties.
The big C. got her.
Yes, I cried.
We missed her past Saturday. But when I closed my eyes I could see her sitting there. I could feel her warmth and her love and kindness.
When we arrive at a certain age more and more people we know stop living. Some we say, hell, what a shame, he/she will be missed.

I know C. will be forever in my mind. No, I did not know her very well. But she made an unforgettable impression. She will always be a part of my memories.

I close my eyes and see C. sitting at the bar of PDN.
I will find C. in my mind’s eye.
C. touched me like she touched so many others. I cannot pinpoint why or how.

But she did.

Dear C., it was an honor and a pleasure to have known you.
We  will all miss you.

Princess and I, Book II

Our first eBook, Princess and I, The First Years,  has been downloaded 40+ times.

Today I have published Princess and I, Book II.
It covers the last few months of 2013, when I moved our blog to a self-hosted site.

Henceforth the next volumes will cover a full year.

You can download our book, Princess and I, Book II, absolutely free and it is available in PDF, epub and Kindle.

I’m sure there are still a few writing errors in this book and I hope everything is well formatted. I checked the links to YouTube and other blogs and updated or removed them when the content was no longer available.

Your feedback is greatly appreciated.

You can download the book HERE

Front page for our 2nd eBook

Saturday, April 15, 2017

I loved how the late afternoon sunlight fell on the bamboo carpets and the rope I had prepared.
Golden light, touching what I, what we love.

Then I fetched Princess.
Immediately I sensed her vulnerability, unrest. Princess was close to that moment of the month. Lately she needs more care, more hugs, more love, more tenderness. But mostly Love.

Back home I took Princess to the bedroom, undress her and pushed her backwards on the bed. For a while I concentrated on her nipples. Pinching, licking, sucking, gently biting and then licking again. It did not take long before she was drifting on a cloud of sensuality where every pore, every nerve’s end had become one extremely sensitive entity.

So I worked my way down, slowly, until I tasted honey and a delicious odor of sandalwood pleasured my senses.
Soon I brought Princess to a much-needed orgasm. She melted in my arms, floating into oblivion.
I teased her some more, playing with her delicious and luscious body A body I know so well.


After a while I grabbed her hair and led Princess to our living room where rope was waiting. I did an intense session. It was not about making pictures, it was about dancing, about loving, Princess and I.
We were wearing our new kimonos. I feel great in mine. I love wearing it. It adds something to my mind, making me act different like in more Dom.

I have a new playlist too. God Is An Astronaut and Explosions In The Sky help me create a wonderful atmosphere.

Princess loves the rope. She loves it when it caresses her skin. Princess loves it when it I tie tight. When I manipulate her. When I give pleasure and pain, a tasty cocktail, different every time we play.

Then I made sure her kimono was out-of-the-way, as mine, and I covered her thigh with hot wax while a vibrator pleasured the love of my life.

Tiny drops of wax splashed on the bamboo rug and dug in the black cotton of my kimono.

I noticed it after playing and the mere fact brought me slightly out of balance. It digs in my mind and make me feel very bad. It has lost its virginity and it becomes a more important issue than it should be. But hey, that’s me.

We moved back to the bedroom, Princess and I, and we made love.
Then we fell asleep.
Princess suffered from hot flashes and night sweats and I had a few surrealistic dreams.

When we woke up it was Easter.
Princess was suffering from a headache and muscle pains.
Yeah, that time of the month it was.
I kissed her. No, we don’t brush teeth beforehand.

We made love, Princess and I.
We fucked too. Hard.
Then made love again.

Then I dropped Princess off at her place. She and her kids will celebrate Easter with the parents of her ex/late husband. Obviously I am not invited.
Hell, I don’t give a rat’s ass.

I’m writing this and posting this.
Then a bag of chips, a glass of wine and a fleece. A movie.
Stephen King’s It is an awesome book and film.
I am looking forward to the new version that is going to hit the theaters over here pretty soon.

Hell, whom on earth does not like a bad-ass clown? I can’t wait to see the new version.

This Sunday I ironed most of the wax out of my kimono. That is a relief.

This is Princess wearing her beautiful red kimono and a simple chest harness emphasizing her yummy breasts.

A simple yet decorative breast harness


Rope Bondage The Smart Way – Book Review

I’ve been tying rope on and off for over 3 years now. We largely prefer floor play over suspensions. For me it is all about using rope to tease, manipulate and dominate Princess. Or for SM.

I don’t apply rope as a technical exercise. It is about being one with Princess. Like dancing the tango, sensual and erotic.
Workshops, online courses and clips helped form my skills. And books of course. They are all about the technical aspects. One needs to know the building blocks. Exercise, building muscle memory, does the rest.
Do I consider myself as an experienced “rigger”? By no means and that is a good thing because I do love the learning process that goes with every skill you want to make your own. It makes you still feel the thrill of finding out something new.

There are some awesome websites that learn the art of Kinbaku. Rope Connections, by Peter Riggs, is one I discovered recently.
Albeit one can find some interesting articles on the technical aspects of rope, this website, this blog, is more about Peter’s personal journey and his experiences with rope. He ties a lot of people so he has quite some experience with the interaction between a rigger and a rope bunny.
Since a few months I visited his site on a regular base reading about his adventures in the world of Kinbaku.

So when Peter announced his first book, Rope Bondage The Smart Way, was ready to be published on Amazon I did not hesitate and pre-ordered.  

I received the book in my Kindle app a few days ago.

I enjoyed the case studies Peter included in his book. They are very valuable because they help you reevaluate your scenes, the way you do the rope.
Other parts of the book made me aware of stuff I am taking for granted and forced me to look at them again.
Obviously I picked up a few tips and tricks about the tying itself.
Based on some case studies I looked into new music to use while doing rope.

For those whom are new to rope this book is invaluable. You won’t learn a bunch of ties, but you’ll look through the eyes of an experienced rigger and learn something more important. You’ll learn how to interact, how to use rope to create a wide variety of emotions when you are tying somebody up.
There are don’ts and do’s before, during and after a rope scene that will help make the scene an unforgettable experience for the model.

Indeed, most books I read were about how to tie this and that knot or combination. Rope Bondage, The Smart Way, gives you the much-needed insight to get the most out of rope bondage. It will increase your ability to do more than just knot and it will help you make your rope bunny feel awesome and happy and safe.

Topics include:

– a guide to effective practice
– strategies for planning your rope bondage session
– case studies to illustrate points and serve as examples
– cheat sheets on positions and the best way to apply bondage for those
– a practical guide for making the session even sexier
– detailed information on “drop” and aftercare
– ideas around getting good photos without having to spend a lot on equipment

Rope Bondage The Smart Way is well written and contains useful links and videos. For those into rope bondage this book contains priceless information.
You can find the book on Amazon but I prefer linking to Peter’s site so you can discover the rich content Rope Connections has to offer.
Highly recommended.