I came across this wonderful post written by Sir Symon. When I read his about Page I smiled. We seem to have a lot in common like age, origin and we have both English mom’s too. I would not be surprised finding out we are the same kind of Dominant.
If you are a Dom or Master I would like to recommend Symon’s blog as it is really worth your time to visit thoroughly.
Symon’s writing touched me as it is not only something I could have written, albeit not so eloquently. With Princess I have an intense, caring and loving D/s relationship. So it reads as a very familiar story too.
It is a very respectful and affectionate article about how a Dom should encourage and motivate his submissive. There is a lot of responsibility and maturity involved in being a Dom (or Master). It is about understanding her, about respecting her and meeting her needs and not to abuse her in any way.
Sir Symon is right when he states it is not about sex but about love. The sex is only the cherry on an already intense and delicious pie.
What do you want?
If you are truly going to own and dominate a woman, you must understand her. Everyone, of course, is unique, but I’ve seen some of the same things over and over between the submissive women I have known:
They are motivated by a deep desire to please. When you ask a “vanilla” woman what to do, she will often reply “whatever you want”, which seems at first sight “annoying”. However, you must understand that phrase for what it is from a submissive. She wants more than anything to please you. Whatever plans or ideas she had on her schedule, if she can make you happy she will be more fulfilled than doing whatever she wanted to do for herself. You must understand that phrase for what it is.
Now, this can easily become abuse. Many submissive women have been through a number of abusive relationships. They give and men take and take and it becomes abusive. Weak men with self-esteem issues are often drawn to these women, which compounds the problem. It takes enormous strength and experience to take from a woman like this (which is what she needs) without abusing her. Your job is to soak up all her love and affection and attention, help her find ways to please you, while supporting and strengthening her as a person. This takes wisdom, experience, and, I believe, some age. I cannot imagine a 20 years old man being a successful “Dom” in any real sense of the word. At this age, I wasn’t really a kind and wise Dom.
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