Thoughts – December 19, 2017

Yesterday I liked a post on Fetlife about slaves written by a well-respected Master. He is the founder of the Fetish Cafe in Antwerp.
 
It was about M/s but also about equality, respect, and unselfishness.
I could relate to what he had written.
 
Shortly after I got a PM from a female slave. She follows me, had liked some of my photographs.
 
She told me she had written a reply to the post I had liked and wanted me to check it. She added she suffered from reading comprehension.
 
I read the text. There were no punctuation marks but it was clear and in relation to the writing.
 
Then I got another PM. She told me was going to meet a Dom but did not feel okay about it.
 
I asked why.
It appeared the guy wanted her to dress in a slutty way and with no panties. It troubled her because she felt she wasn’t owned yet so he had no right do demand anything.
I kind of agreed and asked if she had told him this.
It appeared so but he had insisted.
 
I don’t know this slave and I don’t know the Dom either except that he follows me and vice versa on Fetlife.
 
I asked a few more questions making sure I wasn’t invading her privacy.
It is hard to say anything honest when you know only one side of the story. Let alone give some advise.
 
“Can I PM the conversation I had with Him?” she asked.
Before I could say something a next PM came. The conversation, spread over multiple days. 
 
I’m not going into details but what I read made me frown. Finally I felt uneasy. It was full with red alarm lights. It was about him wanting something but not open or ready to give something in return. 
 
One of the things she wrote was about her back issues making it impossible to hold some postures for very long.
 
Somewhere else she said sorry she could not chat because one of her kids had to be taken to a hospital.
 
Also she mentioned to him she was unsure about the date requirements he had insisted on. Slutty dress, no panties.
 
In her text I found a mix of the need to be wanted and despair.
 
He showed no empathy, did not ask about her back issues or showed any worry about her kid being very sick. He was not interested in any of the more personal stuff that was about whom she is as a person. 
 
It was about his desire for her to be a slave and to obey his requirements.
It was selfish and even extremely selfish.
It sounded bad.
He wanted a slave and her opinion, her approach did not matter to him at all.
There was nothing in the conversation that was supporting or positive. It clearly was about him. Him alone.
 
So I told her I didn’t like what I had read.
“What is your feeling?” I asked, not ready yet to give any advise. I am a vert cautious man. 
“I would love so much to finally find a Master. But I feel he sounds so very selfish.”
I agreed.
“‘Would you go?” she asked.
“It’s not my call,” I answered, “but I would think at least twice about it.”
 
“Thank you,” she replied. “I found it a very negative conversation and it made me feel bad at times . I wasn’t sure I did read it correctly though. I am not going, this is not good indeed.”
She thanked me and wished me and Princess good night.

It was an interesting conversation and it gave me the unique opportunity to see how some woman, in this case a very fragile one, are treated by predators hiding behind being a Dom or Master.

On the other hand the thought occurred that I had been played  with.

The Stranger 3?

About a week ago I wrote a post titled connecting with a couple.

Both are kind of newbies when it comes to BDSM. Johnny and June are eager to learn. Their dynamic is Top/bottom as friends with benefits. Johnny enjoys rope play and June loves being a lust slave. Find the post HERE.

Saturday, December 16, Princess and I visited Fetish Club78 and it was a great experience. Princess thought this was an ideal place to meet the couple in January.

The day after, Sunday, Johnny sent me a PM on Fetlife informing me it was over with June. I felt bad for him and wrote back some encouraging thoughts.

We had communicated a lot and I felt he and I were on the same wavelength.

I told him I’d love to stay in touch.

June sent me a PM too and I wished her good luck. She added she was sure Johnny would be a very good The Stranger 3.

So back to square one and I can’t say I was unhappy with how things finally turned out. Don’t get me wrong, I am sorry Johnny and June broke up.

Looking back on the PM’s with Johnny and the talks with Princess, I started feeling uneasy about the whole idea.
To be honest playing with another sub/slave or with two isn’t my piece of cake. I’m willing to try of course but what we’ve been doing, playing with an extra man, I like more.

The Stranger, the swingers club, Princess behaving as a dirty little slut under my guidance, turns me on big time.
I’m pretty sure it rocks Princesses’ world too.

Princess knows I like Johnny’s way of thinking. When I asked her if I could introduce him as The Stranger 3 she said hell yes.

This morning I got a PM from Johnny telling me he’d like to be The Stranger 3.
That’s a good thing.

We’ll be putting together a hot scenario.

I’m thinking about making it happen in a BDSM-club. Both PDN and Club78 rent rooms so that’s ideal for an after-party if there is a mutual click.

It is Tuesday and thus our evening. I’m preparing a hot play-evening at our place.

I’ll make good use of the Christmas present I bought for Princess at Club78 and make some photographs.

I’m revealing a little something about this present with this photograph.

Christmas gift for Princess – detail.