By sheer coincidence I came in contact with a couple on Fetlife.
Both are kind of newbies when it comes to BDSM. Johnny and June are eager to learn.
Their dynamic is Top/bottom as friends with benefits. Johnny enjoys rope play and June loves being a lust slave. There is more about them of course but the contact we have is still young.
I’m in contact with Johnny and he informs June and I inform Princess.
Playing with a couple was Princesses’ original proposal when we started talking about including other people in our scenes. At that time I did not find that a good idea. Including a man was plan B.
Finding that man and organizing a play scene was relatively easy and straightforward. Princess and I enjoyed playing with The Stranger, a submissive, and The Stranger 2, a switch in a dominant role, very much.
Organising a scene with a couple is a whole different ballgame. It wouldn’t if it was such sex like in swinging.
But this is BDSM and finding stuff we all enjoy. It makes it much more a challenge. I like that.
What’s the idea?
I would set up a scene with June while Johnny watches. For Johnny it is about pleasuring June with a good act and observing and learning.
So far so good.
But what about Princess?
She and June are straight.
Princess suggested she could help me like dropping wax over June on my command. That too was a no go for June. She does not like to be dominated by a woman.
Johnny hinted he, June and Princess could write assignments on pieces of paper and Princess would draw them. She did not like the idea as she wants to play a submissive role. So choosing assignments for me does not feel right for Princess.
Princess suggested I would play with them both. That could be a workable path but I haven’t a clue yet about a titillating scenario.
Princess also wants to know what I’ll be doing in my scene with June. Princess is horrified with the idea I would repeat our scenes with June.
I explained Princess it would be different because June’s desires are different too, her buttons different. But at the moment I am unaware of them. So I can’t say in what direction I want to go yet.
Furthermore we need to meet first, the four of us. Talk, have a few drinks and see if there is a mutual click.
I know Princess has an open mind about all this. Yet there are a few issues.
I would like to compare it with a person dreaming about doing a base-jump. When you are standing, there, all secured, jumping might look completely different from what you’ve imagined.
November 2016. Princess watched me tying The Stranger during our first play evening. After he left Princess told me she had experienced envy, maybe even jealousy. It was about the tying which she found was our private experience. Feeling like that had surprised her.
I believe there to be another issue and it is something I can completely understand.
Princess is my sub and I am her Dom. Playing with June might feel like cheating even if Princess is present.
Johnny and I have still a few things to tackle. The most important is how to include Princess actively in the scene without this being threat to June but very pleasurable for Princess. Then there is his role during and after the scene.
How about sex? For June and Johnny this is a yes. I would happily tag along too but I’m not sure about Princess.
The most important hurdle is Princess accepting me playing with another sub. With accepting I mean the emotional impact. True, I’m having some issues myself with the idea.
The last thing I want to do is to bring our relationship in danger.
Johnny and I continue discussing the event. A few days ago we phoned. We agreed to keep it short but ended talking for about an hour.
That is a good thing.
I like the way he thinks, his respect, his input. I’m looking forward meeting him. And June of course.
Princess, June, Johnny and I will meet on a Saturday evening in a BDSM club for drinks. If all goes well we can enjoy a kinky evening without excluding some basic mutual activity. If it goes no further, than I hope we still have a new friendship to harbour.
If for some reason there is no common ground or worse, we are all grown-ups and we’ll be playing separately and enjoy a great evening too.
This is an interesting and challenging road. I like doing this.
Connecting with kindred spirits and setting up hot play scenario’s as I did with The Stranger and The Stranger 2.
I believe this could be a fun experience and I’m sure we’ll be all learning something.