Two questions – Second Question

During our discussions about expanding our play ground Princess asked me two important questions.

The first question can be found First Question.

The second question was a little trickier but most of what I said before goes for this question too. Not completely of course and I am still processing that part, trying to find a suitable answer.

Princess wanted to know what I wanted to get out of all this. Not for the first time she wanted to know how I experience the playing as we do it today.

I contemplated, wrote, deleted, rephrased and finally ended up with way too many words and no real answer.

Yesterday I talked about this with Princess and she smiled.
“Keep it simple, Milord. After all that is what you always tell me.”
“So what are you saying, Princess?”
“Think Cat and mice, Milord.”

Thank you Princess, you are a lifesaver.

Imagine this little girl receiving a doll as a gift. She plays with the figurine and puts her in all sorts of situations and/or imagining different scenes. The little girl sees her doll as an extension of her fantasies. She can direct and create and the puppet is a willingly partner in their adventures. Often this is a solitary way of playing. When the little girls come together, they play with their dolls too, but then it is about interacting with other puppets, fantasies become more elaborated. But the little girls remain master of their universe.

I think this comes the closest to describing what I get out of it but on a deeper level. In fact, my puppet, Princess, expresses her desires, her wishes, what might frighten her or make her feel uncomfortable.
I create situations, I create scenarios and then play them with Princess. I get most of my satisfaction, physical and cerebral, doing just that. Creating and playing. Being master of my universe. I play them in real life though. And some of the idea’s I want to develop are like a director writing and the scenario and directing it.

Since we decided to get the extension box I’ll be including a second person in some of my scenario’s, in my stories. Imagine the fun sitting at home and inventing new stuff. Trust me, I am very good at what I do.

There is of course more. The mind play, writing about it, mind fucking Princess so I can even find more devious stuff to do.

Playing with Princess is really a very brainy thing because I am satisfying a bunch of cerebral stuff. I do not get aroused often when playing but my mind is sure as hell doing overtime.

When the scene ends, I enjoy the aftercare and then the intense lovemaking.

Adding a second person to the equation is, for me, opening a world with a zillion possibilities for creating new stories, new scenes.

Yes, it is mostly about playing with a doll, a real human being, Princess. And the power that goes with it. Being somewhat god in my universe. Being a director of my porn flicks. Look at it as my own, very personal Kink.com.

Think of it this way. Princess is open for a woman/woman scene. So, where do I find someone reliable? How do I select and find out if Princess digs this woman? When the final candidate is found, how do I introduce her to Princess?
Hell, all this is already a big part of the fun.

There is a second motivator. I want to explore Princess’s desire, dreams, fantasies. I am giving her carte blanche to do so.  And I love the eye candy that will go with all this.

All this is enveloped by something much more important. Love and trust and respect of course.
It is about guiding Princess, leading Princess and helping her discover her sexuality. Maybe it is more about leading than sexuality.
In my world though both go hand in hand.

Since yesterday I know almost everything is possible. These are hot and grand times.
It is not an exercise on trust but a confirmation.

So finally we come to the essential of BDSM. The submissive has all the power. Without Princess I would be nothing.
Through Princess I shine while she enjoys me pushing her boundaries.

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6 thoughts on “Two questions – Second Question”

  1. Thank you for such a well thought out post. I always wondered what the Dom truly got out of it. Love the picture. That has always been a fantasy of mine. I don’t think I could ever act upon it, I’m kind of a one man women, but it’s sure fun to look☺️

    1. Thank you Robin 🙂 I forgot to mention eye candy is also very important for me, as a voyeur. Don’t be mistaken though, Princess is a one man’s woman too. It depends on how you define things. Maybe I’ll do a post on the subject soon.

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