To Share or Not to Share – Revisited

These past days have been for us, Princess and I, literally groundbreaking.

It started with a mail, referring to a post I did in August 2015, called To Share or Not To Share. This post was based on one I wrote two months earlier, Back to the Dungeon.

Of course it was not only the mail but it sure as whatever accelerated the process that was going on. An evolution so to speak, most of the time buried in a few spoken fantasies during rough sex.

I really have no clue how to begin this post so I’ll start with a timeline highlighting the most important moments in the BDSM part of our life.

September 6, 2011 – Parent’s evening at Little A’s school. I meet (for a second time I found out later) Princess. I start a conversation with her, my very first time I approached a woman in that way, and leave later on with Princess’s phone number written on a piece of paper.

September 20, 2011 – Our very first date.

October 9, 2011 – We make love for the first time. Much to her surprise she comes during oral sex. For me making love with Princess was the best I ever had.

January 2, 2012 – The past 3 months have been turbulent. Princess wasn’t sure she was ready for a relationship. January 2 marks as second start.

Gradually the lovemaking becomes rougher and I’m secretly hoping Princess is not only into BDSM too but also compatible.

August 15, 2012 – Princess finally comes out of the closet. Read the memories of that evening in August 15th 2013.

November 16th, 2012 – The blog Princess and I, Bound by Desire, is born. The first article is Nipples & Clothespins.

August, 2, 2013 – It is a Friday evening. We are nervous because we are taking BDSM outdoors. We are going to check out the Fetish Cafe in Antwerp. The Cafe is open for 18+, we attend a Shibari show and someone of the FC’s Staff takes care of us, answering all our questions.

September 7, 2013 – We attend our very first Fetish Lounge Club for couples at the Fetish Cafe in Antwerp. I wish I had written our limits down, I wish we could look back and see how we were then, so nervous, not really knowing what to expect. It was a grand evening.

October 5, 2013 – We meet K & J at the Fetish Cafe. They contacted us through Fetlife.

December 6, 2013 – We, Princess and I, attend a 6-hour workshop on Shibari.

May 24, 2014 – If I am not mistaken our first private play with two other couples. One of them K & J. We talked and talked, Princess and I, letting go of some soft limits, anticipating on what would happen.

It was great but it did not meet our expectations. There was no real interaction.

May 31, 2015 – We are invited to K & J’s Rose Ceremony

We don’t attend the Couple’s Fetish Lounge Evenings that much anymore. We prefer a mixed public, couples and single males.

July 19, 2015 – Back to the Dungeon – Part 2

Then things become different. We are no into the Fetish Lounge things anymore. Boring. Couples come and play and then, in the bar, are unapproachable isles. We need more and we start to make plans to visit other places. Fortunately, there are new initiatives emerging and a well know swingers’ club closed and opened as a BDSM club.

6 November 2015 – We receive a mail from K & J. I read it to Princess, through the phone. My message is simple. Listen, ask questions regarding the content of the mail and then think about it.

November 9, 2015 – Princess and I discuss the mail by phone. Talking is easier, there is no distraction, no touching, just listening.

November 10, 2015 – In the evening I pick up Princess. We go out for dinner. A classy Chinese Restaurant. We talk, fantasize, talk and discuss our limits. Not only our limits but so many other issues. We have our past experiences, we know what we want, desire and dream. For Princess and I sexuality and lovemaking is very important because it is whom we are.

Yet I am not completely honest because there is something I am not saying because, well, we both have our past.

November 11, 2015 – We fuck like hungry dogs. Like we always do. Yet something has changed. There is the notion of lovemaking, there is the sex too. They offer a zillion titillating scenarios when combined.

We talked, Princess and I, these past few days. We went deep, we even involved past experiences, other lives, other times, in our discussion. They are a part of whom we are today and define somehow our relation.

I came clear with Princess and I talked about my deepest fantasies. Then she did too. We listened to each other, that is what communication is about. Listening.

There is no such thing as hard limits. No for us that is.

To be continued.

Source http://cassandredayne.wordpress.com/2015/02/17/the-scent-of-his-belt/
Source http://cassandredayne.wordpress.com/2015/02/17/the-scent-of-his-belt/

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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