REBLOG – 10 Reasons Why You Suck As A Dominant #BDSM #Dominance #submission #ASMSG

Reblogged from The Kinky World of Vile, an excellent blog I follow.

There have only been a few times I have reblogged or posted others writings and when I did it was because I found it useful or very interesting. A very good friend shared this on one of her friends profiles on fetlife. She felt is was important enough for others to see, and after reading she was right. While I do agree with most there are some areas I do not agree with but it is still very good. It really does hit home……….

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This writing is intended for Male Dominants and female submissives. My writing is not limited to this audience but understand it’s intended audience.

#10: You don’t understand the basic concept of behavior modification/ behavior association

Explanation: I can’t tell you how many times I have heard “dominants” say something along the lines of “if my submissive crosses a line then she get’s 10 lashings when she gets home”. The reason this is a problem is because you are associating the lashings as a negative. You are engraving in your submissives head that if she crosses a line she will get beat and that is a problem if your submissive is a masochist… yet you wonder why she keeps exhibiting certain behaviors you don’t like? Because she might enjoy getting beat knucklehead!!

Resolution: Educate yourself on the power of behavior association and behavior modification. A fantastic book is titled Behavior Modification Basic Principles by David L. Lee. Check it out.

#9: You think you should allow or you allow your anger to fuel your Dominance

Explanation: There was a a point in my D/s life that I noticed I “corrected” my submissive better when I was angry/irritated.. yeah that is not cool.

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